#Question: When can you tell that she wants to be kissed?

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jordan Harbinger

Hey guys - I’ve got a huge topic to discuss with you today.  I can safely say it’s something you’ve wondered about, (if you’re like most of the guys I meet) and that you’re still probably a little confused by it.  At the end of this message is a tried & true technique that will ALWAYS give you the answer to the question:  Is she ready to be kissed?

You never want to make your move too soon, of course – but you also never want to wait forever, closing the door on the sexual tension that is flowing.  I got an interesting question from a guy named Darren a few weeks back, which gives me the ideal path into this topic:  And hats off to him, because he honestly admits his shortcoming.

Most guys won’t admit it, but they fumble this moment like a rookie running back.  Want to be Walter Payton?

Listen up:

 

Dear Friend,

Recently, I was out on a date with a great girl I met at a party. A number of times in the evening, she would look at me and hold the stare a bit longer than usual. I kept thinking, “she wants me to kiss her”. was so nervous though, that I never went for it! What is the best way to set up a kiss with a girl? I mean, I know how to kiss her, I just wonder if there is a cool way to make the move.  Help!

Thanks,

Darren

Darren, Darren, Darren…I feel your pain, man.

First of all, don’t worry – this is by far the TOP question I get from guys. “How do I smoothly go from talking to kissing?”

Surprisingly, even the most skilled guys I’ve come across are constantly looking to handle this tricky situation a bit better.

So, here we go – the step-by-step guide to being super smooth when it’s time to smooch:
In my estimation, this is where most guys blow it. They know the girl is ready to be kissed, yet they freeze up and pass a bunch of good opportunities to make a move,waiting for that perfect one.  Even worse, they’ll wait hoping the woman will make the first move.  (Don’t do that Darren…please)

If you’re the kind of guy who hesitates, I got news for you… There are no perfect windows of opportunity, just many good ones,and 99% of the time she will not be the first to initiate any form of intimacy. If she does, consider yourself lucky. How do we handle this highly charged moment?

Very simply (as always with me).

Here are some steps, because I have a hunch you like structure (like me):

1) The first thing to make sure of is that you’re both having a good time, getting along well and physical contact has been established. It could be anything from holding hands, to a playful push on the shoulder. At this point, it is important that she has touched you in some way indicating interest on her part.

2) When you feel you have reached this point, start slowing down the energy of the interaction.  Start subtly moving a bit closer to her, slowing down your speech, and take longer pauses between sentences. The thought here is SUBTLE.

3) Now here’s the secret, the one move that will assure you to be remembered by her as the smoothest guy ever…  During each of those pauses in your conversation,stare at her lips. You can even start talking again, though slowly, still staring at her lips. Start slowly moving in closer. The words you’re saying at this point become irrelevant; the sexual tension in the air will be too thick.

4) Slowly move your eyes from her mouth to her eyes and back again. If she has not moved away, or shown any sign of unease, you can place a hand on her hip and bring her in closer.

5) Usually she will lean in the rest of the way and kiss you. After all, at this stage, your lips should only be an inch or two away from hers.  Congratulations!  In her mind, you are now the world’s smoothest man.  Now, I realize that may be a bit of a “high dive” for some of you.

Let’s lower this a bit, and give you one more technique to know if it’s on.  Women always wear perfume, right?

It’s safe to say that a woman will usually head out with a fragrance and it will usually be featured around her neck area.

Say this:

“Mmmm, you’re wearing a nice fragrance tonight – what’s the scent?”  Then, lean in and subtly sniff her neck.  Meanwhile, observe her body language – does she flinch when you get closer?  Or, does she stay calm or even move in to you, inviting you to get closer?  If it’s the latter, then it’s TIME – no question about it.  All you do next is simply move back a bit (but not back to where you were before you leaned over), and do steps 4 & 5 from above…

Oh, and take a deep breath…you’re going to need it.

#nerdsunite

 

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