#PickingUp: Using Qualification to Gauge a Situation

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jordan Harbinger

Qualification is probably the biggest term we use yet have no real understanding of its meaning, and occasionally how it’s used. To start with, let’s look at the origin of the actual term qualification, and its uses with regards to pickup. Loosely. Qualification was a term used to describe the action of making yourself come across as smooth and Alpha and questioning the girl you’re attempting to seduce to see if she is as good as you appear to be. A danger of this is the chance of over qualifying and losing the girl as she feels she isn’t competent enough for a relationship with you.

This really does still leave a lot to the imagination. With pick up not truly being a certified science it’s up to us to begin to solidify things and see where the terms and techniques we use cross over into the realms of accepted psychology. In sales the term qualification is used readily. It is used to describe the action of using a series of questions in order to ascertain whether a prospective client is serious about purchasing your product.

Essentially you would look to create a series of set questions, routines if you will that would enable you to assess quickly and efficiently whether you where wasting your time in trying to sell your product to someone who literally has no intention, or means to purchase your wares. This can almost directly be applied to pick up in a very broad sense.

Even if we felt that qualification had no specific ability to generate attraction, those who are advocates of the “approach as many girls as you can” technique will readily see the benefit here. Simply assessing right off the bat whether a girl has any chance of sleeping with you and if not, moving on to the next one will save a lot of your time and energy for those that you can actually close.

It could even be argued that direct game is a form of qualification. You approach and state your intent in the best way possible. If the girl isn’t interested in you on the first approach you can always move on to the next one and save your time and energy. Eventually you’re going to meet one who says yes. Now there are obviously a number of things you can do to increase your chances in direct game, and with practice, and work on your aesthetic; you can significantly increase your chances. What if we wanted something with a little more precision? Does qualification provide us with the tools to do so?

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