It's all about the #confidence - own yo-self
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @JenSquard
So I was tweeting it up with Miss Brooke the other day, our first chat ever, and it started a little something like this:
Definitely not an unusual thing for me to say. I tend to like everyone until they are asswipes, and I have read some of Brooke's blogs and tweets, all things that made me like her. This was her response:
She was totes magotes serious, and this makes me so incredibly sad. I understand depression, and I understand struggling with confidence. But dude, you have to have to have to own your own brand of awesome! If you don't like yourself, change it! If it's a personality thing, easy peezy - just knock it off and stop doing whatever it is that you find obnoxious. I know, I know, it's not always easy peezy, but make the change. The time is now, and this is honestly all the time we have. Tomorrow could lead to anything - you could get stage 4 cancer at the age of 24 like one of my good friends. You could fight it and win. Or you could lose. You could get hit by a car while crossing the street. You could fight through it, or not so much. You could get pregnant, you could get mugged, you could win the lottery. None of these things are going to define you. But you know what will define you? YOU.
Honestly, you are all you have. Why not make today the day that you fall in love with yourself. I see so many tweets and status updates about people losing love, or whining that they haven't found it yet. Trust me, no one, NO ONE can love you if you don't love yourself. No one is that strong, and convincing someone that you love them is hard enough without having to justify it. So take some time out of every day to look at what it is that makes you so awesome. Nurture those things. Then look at the things that you don't like about yourself, and either work on acceptance or change.
Do you hate the way you look? Get over it. This is what you have. Everyone, including me, has totally struggled with this, but then I realized that there are people out there that legitimately believe I am a hottie manicotti. So I released some control and started trusting in their judgement. I went three months without wearing any makeup, and the person in the mirror became someone that I really thought was worth attention. Hate your weight? Go work out. Hate your hair? Cut it. As long as you carry yourself with pride, and face the world with confidence, any style will be awesome. Trust me, I rock a pixie cut, so I would know.
I'm not saying that this is going to be an easy thing to do, but it certainly isn't going to happen until you try. And if you haven't mastered the confidence yet, then lie. Lie lie lie your ass off about it! Pretend. Act like you are confident, and I doubt anyone will be able to tell the difference. And trust me, confidence = incredibly sexy. And guess what? The more people find your confidence sexy, the more confidence you will have. It's an awesome cycle.
Dude, we all have baggage, we all have excuses, and we all have the potential to be amazing. Why do you read this site? Because Jen (okay, Jens plural) is awesome, and knows it. That confidence is so appealing, and you just want to grab a piece of it. And her life sounds so exciting, right? Guess why? Because she makes changes when they're needed, and she doesn't back down from a challenge. If you want that, then do it. Stop waiting until tomorrow to be the person you want to be. Tomorrow will always lead to more tomorrows. And there just isn't time for waiting.
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