The #Sexual Revolution Ruined Everything
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Shabana Malone
I want to preface this by saying that I am guilty of many of the things I am about to bitch about. If you don't relate, this doesn't apply to you. If you're offended, take a look at it. I would also like to say that I am NOT a feminist and am sort of anti-feminist. Yeah we get to vote and work now. Woo. hoo. I'm so happy. BUT...
Did we really get more in the end? I am a firm believer that men only behave as badly as women allow them to get away with. Since the sexual revolution, slowly but surely, things have gotten worse and worse for women. And we wonder why men don't commit or treat us right? We train them not to. We pretty much uttered the following phrases through our actions:
"We want to work full time AND raise the kids, or dump them on to someone else."
"You're a misogynist prick if you try to hold the door open for me or carry something heavy!"
"We want to live with you for years and years and you don't have to marry us!"
"We want to put out for free. We don't even need dinner anymore! In fact, we might go ahead and support you financially!"
"We will accept the terms 'hanging', 'talking', 'kickin it' as synonyms for dating and courting. Then we will be confused about "what we are" and ask our girlfriends what kind of relationship they think we're in.
News flash, ladies:
There was a time men didn't behave this way. Why? Because we didn't tolerate it, nor did society. And because we didn't put out for bums the way we do now. So men had to act right or not get any. Or go to prostitutes. But damn, at least they got paid!
And the saddest part is, if I and ten of my girlfriends stopped sleeping with guys who haven't done anything to earn it, it doesn't matter because they'll be fifty other chicks who will put out for free. Starting from junior high. Girls are giving blow jobs before teen years to be accepted. Women are lining up to sleep with 'the Situation', who is the definiton of a "butterface" (though that term doesn't apply to men, of course!)
What am I saying? I don't fucking know. God knows I've trained my share of men to treat women this way. I accepted it as the status quo. But I'm growing so weary of it and wonder what it was like for women before we demanded "equality". All I know is, you know how Kate Winslet's character in 'Revolutionary Road' felt? Well, I feel exactly the OPPOSITE. Why women want so badly to work and open their own doors is beyond me. Another news flash: men and women are not the same.
Thanks for letting me share.
