#Marriage: Now or Never?
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @maniacalmorgan
So, I might catch some flack for posting this article, but I have to get this off my chest. One of my closest friends who I've known longer than any of my other friends is thinking about proposing to his girlfriend. DON'T DO IT!
Ok, so I've known this friend for a looooong long long time. He was one of my first friends in 5th grade. I was 9 years old. I've known this guy for almost 15 years. For someone my age, that's a long ass time, right? I love this guy to death, he's my brother from another mother, but I caught wind that he wants to ask his girl to marry him. Now, I'm all for being happy and supporting my friends in what they want to do, but you have to have some background story.
My friend is one of the nicest guys you will ever meet. Seriously. He's always been there for me and all of his friends, whether it was convenient or not. I love this guy like a brother. He's always been so focused on his friends that he's been somewhat socially awkward with the ladies. Now, I'm not hating. I've always been there for him. I remember when we were 18, we were sitting on the beach with another friend; just three of us dudes. Now, we saw a couple of hotties camping out not far from us. Both friends being who they were made me go initiate conversation with these girls and invite them over. He's always been somewhat shy and hasn't ever really found the right girl to be in a serious relationship with until now. This is his first serious relationship in... forever.
I do have to say that his girlfriend is great from what I could tell. Not all of our friends would agree, but I liked her. She's a sweet and seemingly genuine person, but I think he needs to wait. He moved about 3 hours away from all of his friends, and the only person he knew in the town was his brother who was going to school. Naturally, the first girl he met, he's clung on to. I get it, but I think he should too. They have had their fair share of arguments and problems and I always get the "Hey Morgan, what should I do?" phone calls. Give it a few years. You're young, and she's even younger. She's 22 years old. I'm a different person than I was 6 months ago, let alone 2 years ago. Things and people change. If you want to be with someone, be with them, but don't be so eager to slap a ring and make it permanent.
I think it's always important to keep in mind what your friends think. I have yet to have a successful relationship where my friends didn't approve of the girl I was dating. I realize that it's no coincidence. Your friends know you better than anyone and aren't afraid to speak their minds to keep you from a lifetime of regret. That's what friends are for... to make you better, not bring you down. Trust them.
Just to clarify for all my nerds out there, I am not opposed to being married. I am totally a hopeless romantic and I get it. I really do, but I'm not ready now. I'm still working on making myself better before I could commit to anyone else. An analogy Jen used was life is like an airplane. You have to secure your oxygen mask before you can help anyone else with theirs. I know that people at my age are still fickle and very much exploring themselves. Like I said before, if you are going to be with someone, be with them, but don't be so eager to claim it forever. If they love you, they won't be going anywhere.
So, to my friend that may or not be reading this. I love you, man. You are my brother and my friend. Know that I care and want you to be happy, but I don't want you to lead yourself down a path of unhappiness. Just wait and be happy with what you have for now.
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